It is said that working women have a tough time balancing work and life, but if your husband happens to belong to the same field as yours, things tend to become a little easy for you. But that's something actor Vidya Balan seems to agree with.
While Vidya has worked with her husband of four years in the past; their first film together being the critically acclaimed No One Killed Jessica; she now thinks that it is not the right choice for them as a couple. In an interview with a leading film magazine, Vidya has clearly stated that she would never want to work with her husband again.
"It's the best way"
“I’ve decided not to work together. It’s just better that way. That way we won’t bring work home or take our house to the set either. There are lots of wonderful actors he can work with. And there are lots of producers I can work with. It’s best this way. (Laughs) I guess we’re selfish," she said.
Now, Vidya is one of those few actors who is known to speak her mind. In the past also Vidya stated that even though she is married and has a loving husband, she is still the most important person in her life.
"At least in India, everyone, including women, has treated men like the most important person in their lives. But today, I very proudly tell people, that I am the most important person in my life. And sometimes people are taken aback, because as a married woman, I should be saying that Siddharth is the most important person in my life. I love Siddharth, but I am still the most important person in my life. If you think I am being selfish, self-centred, self-consumed, self-absorbed, self-indulgent - I don't care! This is what it is. It is high time," she said while speaking to a national daily.
While she is learning to get used to being known as Mrsa Sidharth Roy Kapoor, there are certain things that anger Vidya.
"Sometimes people will invite him and say to him please let Vidya know. These little things will anger me. But then I am telling myself that you have not understood the meaning of marriage. Marriage is when you let yourself get subsumed. It was not about Siddharth and me as individuals ever. It was about how to be in a marriage. When people ask me, 'do you seek Siddharth's permission?' I feel it even difficult to say 'what?!' But I know that it is the reality for a lot of people. It is also encouraged. Mr remains Mr (after marriage), Mrs is subsumed. Why can't it be Mr and Miss?" she says.
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Married is just the beginning...
As a married woman in India, many of us get so busy settling into our new lives that we often forget about ourselves. But, the truth is that marriage just marks the beginning of a new phase in our lives, which does not mean that you stop doing things you loved doing before.
1. Making time for your friends: Your friends help you being you and with them, you're more at ease and the person you've always been, not just a doting wife and daughter-in-law.
2. Follow your passions: We often forget that a wife, a mother, and a daughter-in-law are just a few roles that we women have to play. As an individual, you have your onw dreams and passions and nothing should stop you from pursuing them.
3. Spending time with your siblings and parents: Your parents and siblings know you through thick and thin and they exactly know how you feel in a certain situation. Chances are, they might even have some important piece of advice to give you at difficult times.
Also Read: I am married, but I am still the most IMPORTANT person in my life
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