While there is a lot of glamour and chutzpah associated with the life of stars, many of them go through tremendous upheavals in their personal lives. Some of our popular TV stars such as actress Daljit Kaur have been in abusive relationships and the details about their failed marriages is nothing short of shocking.
After Daljit another known TV actress Vaishnavi Dhanraaj has opened about her abusive relationship and failed marriage. Vaishnavi is known for her strong character roles in the popular shows such as Na Aana Is Des Lado, Parvarish- Kuch Khatti Kuch Meethi, Madhubala, CID, Crime Patrol and Begusarai.
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Vaishnavi is the actress who played the fiery Jhanvi in the superhit TV show Naa Aana Is Des Lado. The bubbly actress is known for her warm, girl-next-door image on television, but no one had even a slight inkling on the personal turmoil she was going through. In an exclusive interview to a popular entertainment portal, Vaishnavi has made shocking revelations of her abusive marriage.
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“I was a victim of domestic violence, which Nitin imposed on me. I couldn’t take it beyond a certain point. Yes, it was my call. I reached a saturation point where I couldn’t bear it any longer. It was gruesome. How can you take such behaviour from your own spouse? That too, continuously. It was a very bad case of domestic violence. I even took him for counseling. Our parents too did everything to make him understand. But nothing worked," she says.
Vaishnavi had married fellow TV actor Nitin Sahrawat in an extravagant wedding ceremony in 2012. Their wedding was even covered as one of the most expensive weddings of the television industry. But, little did she know that it would be a life-changing event for her, quite literally!
Continue reading on the next page to know more about Vaishnavi's abusive relationship with Nitin Sahrawat!
Vaishnavi says that she waited desperately for things to change but nothing seemed to be in place.
"I kept hoping that he would change and our marriage would work but he still went on. Most of the time in my marriage with Nitin, I used to be in a state of depression. There were good times in the middle sometimes but if something such drastic is happening alongside, then everything is just gone," she says.
If that was not enough, her husband would say that she deserved this treatment.
"He would say: 'You deserve it'. He was not sorry about it. He would make up in some other manner but never with an apology. I see many marriages shrouded in domestic violence, couples stay together for their kids or society- but I eventually decided that I can't remain in a marriage devoid of love and respect. I think I was blind then. I think that I didn't respect myself enough then to take a stand against him. I was definitely at fault to take such behaviour from him," she adds.
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Finally, she reached her saturation point and decided it was time to call it quits.
"It became impossible for me to carry on with Nitin. One morning, it became very bad. He wouldn’t have killed me probably, but I got so scared that I ran away from the house. He had beaten me so badly that my leg was bleeding. That was my last day as his wife- emotionally, physically and mentally. I eventually got a divorce in January, this year. I feel that it is not possible to stay in an abusive marriage until you yourself are abusive towards your partner," she says.
Signs you are in an abusive relationship
While domestic abuse can be a traumatising experience for many, it is a known fact that some women overlook certain signs and do not even know that they are in an abusive marriage. An abusive relationship does not only involve physical abuse, but also emotional abuse that could be far more difficult to deal with. Here are a few signs you should watch out for:
1. Your partner is constantly jealous: If your spouse is over possessive of you and your whereabouts to an extent that you are unable to do anything without their permission, it could be the first sign of your abusive relationship.
2. He cuts you off family and friends: There are many spouses who force their partners to have no contact with their friends and family after marriage and even push them to give up their jobs and hobbies.
3. He's way too controlling: If you are interrogated by your spouse each time you step out of your house, it could be another sign of emotional abuse. Such partners expect their spouses to seek their permission for every little thing they do, failing which they may resort to physical abuse.
Also Read: Actress Daljit Bhanot opens up about her abusive marriage with Shaleen Bhanot
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