In a blood-curdling incident that took place in Faridabad on Monday night, a man allegedly banged a six-year-old girl against a wall because she urinated on the mattress, consequentially, killing the child.
The child was the daughter of his lover and both had been staying with him for around three years after the woman separated from her former husband.
Although, the man rushed her to the hospital as she became unconscious, she was declared ‘brought dead’. The hospital authorities also informed the police about it and the man has been arrested for murder while a case has been registered.
Can bedwetting be such grave problem that an innocent child is so severely punished for that? The answer is a clear, NO!
Parents, guardians, and everyone who has a child in their care must understand that any type of abuse can never be the solution to any problem that is faced by a child, including bedwetting.
Here’s how we need to cope with a child’s bedwetting problem…
- Deepen your understanding: Adults need to take initiative and get an insight into this problem. Bedwetting is beyond a child’s control and there could be many physiological, psychological or behavioral reasons behind it. Reacting to it, especially in a negative manner, without understanding why a particular child is bedwetting, can complicate the situation further. Take advice from your pediatrician to resolve this problem.
- Resorting to any type of abuse is not the solution: Shaming the child or hitting or severely punishing is unacceptable and it won’t help either. This will only develop an inferior feeling in the child and affect his or her personality forever. Physical abuse or punishments is never the solution and it is especially true with reference to children. Even this type of behavior from an adult can deeply impact the tender minds.
- Scrutinize the child’s environment: If the pediatricians diagnose that bedwetting is not because of any physiological problems, then it is of utmost importance to look into the immediate environment of the child, be it family, school, day care or any other place where the child spends considerable time. Many times bedwetting can persist or come back if the child is in fearful, abusive environment or is being sexually abused.
- Put the responsibility on the child: Once all possibilities of physiological and environmental reasons are ruled out, you could directly communicate with the child, of course, under a pediatrician’s guidance. Make the child take responsibility for cleaning sheets, changing the clothes themselves and so on. It will help the child to understand that he or she needs to take action.
- Last but not the least, have patience, lots of it! Getting frustrated will only get the better out of you and you might just react in a way that you might regret all your life. So just have patience as you help your little angel overcome a common problem like bedwetting.
Also Read: 10 tips to help your child cope with bedwetting
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