Saif Ali Khan revealed the TRUTH behind the end of his turbulent marriage to ex-wife Amrita Singh
In a throwback interview that has now gone viral, Saif Ali Khan made some explosive statements about his ex-wife Amrita Singh's abuse towards his mother and sisters
Actor Saif Ali Khan seems to have it all. A royal surname, a famous better-half, a supportive family, a new baby and meaty work projects in his kitty. His life seems rosy and quite frankly, sorted from the outside.
But it wasn't always as simple as that for the 10th Nawab of Pataudi. He has gone through his fair share of personal turbulence and the most famous amongst them was his divorce from his first wife, Amrita Singh.
In a throwback interview, which is now going viral, Saif shared that his relationship with ex-wife Amrita Singh soured due to her alleged ill-treatment of his family members including his mother Sharmila Tagore and his sisters Saba and Soha Ali Khan.
My wife abused my mother and sisters
"My wife and I have gone our separate ways. I respect my wife’s space. But why am I being constantly reminded of how terrible a husband I was, and how awful a father I am' I’ve my son Ibrahim’s photograph in my wallet. Each time I look at it, I feel like crying'I miss my daughter Sara all the time," said the 46-year-old in his interview dating back to 2005.
He added that Amrita often called him 'worthless' and even took jibes at his mother and sister.
"It isn’t nice to be constantly reminded of how worthless you are and to have taunts, jeers, insults and abuses thrown at your mother and sister all the time. I’ve gone through all of it," he shared adding that he paid Rs 5 crore to Amrita even after this ordeal.
"I’m supposed to give Amrita Rs 5 crore"
Sharing his financials, Saif said, “I’m supposed to give Amrita Rs 5 crore, of which I’ve already given her approximately Rs 2.5 crore. Also, I’m paying Rs 1 lakh per month until my son becomes 18. I’m not Shah Rukh Khan. I don’t have that kind of money. I’ve promised her I’ll pay up the rest of the money, and I will, even if I’ve to slog till I drop dead."
The Nawab added that the house he once owned is also occupied by Amrita now and he is happy that his kids are comfortable.
"Whatever I’ve earned from doing ads, stage shows and films is being given for my children. I’ve no money. Our bungalow is for Amrita and the kids, and never mind the relatives who’ve joined her after my departure," he stated.
Continue reading to see why Saif shockingly wanted to 'die of shame.' Horrific!
While at the time he had just divorced his wife Amrita and was still feeling the pressure of a newly divorced man. In that explosive interview, Saif also mentioned that Amrita played a crucial role in helping him establish himself professionally.
He stated that she introduced him to industry bigwigs and even took him under her wings.
"Amrita has played a big hand in my growth as an actor"
"Sure, I liked being put in touch with the industry’s bigwigs by Amrita, having dinner with Karan Johar, etc. But in hindsight I’d have been better off finding my way through the industry. There’s a theory that I became whatever I am because Amrita took me by my finger and led me through it all. She has played a big hand in my growth as an actor and human being," he said.
However, Saif said that all he ever wanted was his kids, but even that was denied.
“I really want my kids. But I don’t want to put up a constant fight over them. If they are to be taken away from me then let Amrita call them Sara Singh and Ibrahim Singh. Let my daughter become 18 and ask me, ‘Where were you Dad, when my brother and I needed you'’ Let me die of shame. But please don’t kill me with a feeling of constant guilt just because I’ve had the courage to finally walk away from an impossible relationship to find some solace.” Saif shared.
“I want no confrontation with Amrita. She was, and will remain, an integral part of my life. I want her and my kids to be happy," he concluded at the time.
And while this throwback interview may now be going viral, the fact is that Saif and Amrita have both come to terms with their current status. Where on one hand, Saif is a married man with a new baby and Amrita is busy taking care of her two kids and continuing her career as an actor and is happy with Saif's new life.
"It’s a great time to have a kid"
It only goes to show how time only changes equations, but also makes people more mature and certainly better parents. Today, Saif is a happy new dad and is busy with Taimur.
"I feel 40-45 is a good age. Although my father (the late Mansoor Ali Khan Pataudi) wasn’t a very religious person, he wrote me a note on my 40th birthday that said, ‘The secret of Islam was revealed to the Prophet on his 40th birthday’. I think what he meant was that this is the age when you are sorted. So, it’s a great time to have a kid. I don’t feel like it’s an additional responsibility. Instead, I am like, ‘I want to [have a child],’” Saif told HT City days before he became a father again.
In all these years Saif has certainly learnt many life lessons, which we are sure he will pass onto his kids, Sara, Ibrahim and Taimur. But the most important thing to note here is that his children from Amrita are now equally comfortable with stepmum Kareena Kapoor Khan as they are with their own mother and that must be credited to both Saif and Kareena as well as Amrita.
They eased the kids into the new family arrangement and in the process taught us some interesting ways as well.
3 ways to ease kids to accept a stepparent
- Validate your kid's emotions: Talk to your kid and address their concerns about having a new parent in the family. Do not dismiss them as temporary feelings that may change once the new parent is in. Make sure to create an environment where your kid feels safe to discuss his feelings.
- Spend one-on-one time: Make sure to spend quality time with your kids so they do not feel neglected. In cases of divorce and separation it's easy for kids to feel lost and ignored and even guilty for being the reason for their parents' separation.
- Rebuild your own relationship: If your marriage cannot culminate into anything but divorce, try to make the process as friendly and amicable as possible. This means that if you can be friends with your ex, then this helps the kids be around both sets of parents with ease.
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