Riddhima Kapoor Sahni: "My mum is always there, I know she will help me"
Says the elusive star kid who is now heading a successful jewellery line and balancing life as a working mother
While Bollywood royalty Neetu Kapoor and Rishi Kapoor continue to rule the roost as a beloved offscreen and onscreen jodi, it’s their elusive daughter, Riddhima Kapoor-Sahni who has finally found her footing in the spotlight.
Kapoor-Sahni gracefully transitioned from a star kid to a working mother with her year-old eponymous jewellery line- RKS Jewellery, which she says is inspired by her own contemporary and minimalistic style and is shipping worldwide.
Riddhima Kapoor-Sahni spoke exclusively to Indusparent from her New Delhi home about being a mother, her five-year-old daughter Samara, and her mother Neetu Kapoor’s positive influence in her life.
On growing up as a star kid
Growing up in that environment was normal to us, because we weren’t aware (of who we were) at the time. But people around us, for instance, in school, or when we went for a playdate, looked at us different, treated us differently. For us it was very normal growing up in the house.
But at that time you’re a child and you are not that aware of exactly who you are unless somebody makes it a little obvious. So we realised it much later that our parents were famous when we saw them on TV or when they went for award shows or worked on shows abroad.
My dad used to take us for his shows abroad back in the days and when we'd see the applause and people going crazy, we realised that they were popular.
On being a close-knit family
Well, when we were in school dad was busy shooting, while my mum gave up her career at a very young age when she was 22 or 23 years-old, so that she could be at home with us.
Her time was with us, for us, just taking care of us and being with us. My dad was away most of the time to shoots. But while that was the case, every Sunday he made sure that he took us out, either for lunch, or he would play quick games with us. He used to spend a lot of time with us during the weekend.
I remember that during summer holidays, he’ll take us with him wherever he went, whether it was his shoot or if he was performing, he made sure he took his family with him. And whenever he was working from Monday to Friday, he made sure to come home by 6 pm so that he could spend time with us before we went to bed.
On mum’s sacrifice and influence
Mum was always at home, it’s sort of also normal for a mother to be home. Had my mum been working, it would have probably been different. But my mother gave up everything to be with us.
It takes a lot to give up a flourishing career. At that time, she was very young and she had me when she was 23 years. And today, actresses start their career at that age and she gave up her career for us.
We appreciate that so much today.
Now that I have my own daughter, I am always sort of messaging her for the littlest of things. If I have an issue with my daughter, if I don’t know what to do about a situation, my mum is always there. Because I know she will help me.
She’s just a What’sApp message away.
On marriage and the institution
Marriage is a two-way street. You just can’t keep expecting from your partner and your partner can’t keep expecting from you. There’s a lot of give and take, but it’s more important to be friends.
My husband and I started with a friendship that developed into a relationship and that led to marriage. And now even though we are married we are very good friends.
I didn’t have any problems during pregnancy. God is kind and thankfully, it was very normal. I did not treat my pregnancy as an illness I was just doing everything. Of course, I had to take care of a few things, but other than that I was eating everything for first time in my life.
I was eating whatever I wanted. Now we have to be so weight conscious and watch what we eat but it was just amazing, I was eating everything, I was glowing. It was just a beautiful nine months.
I feel more connected to my mother now that I am one myself. Now I know my mother was right about everything. That time you think she’s not right, you’re rebel, but she was so right.
We are certainly closer as friends and now we handle Samara together, because she’s quite naughty.
My life changed after Samara was born. It was completely upside down, but a lovely journey, beautiful journey, and I’ve enjoyed having her. She’s growing up very quickly, but she’s just a joy. It’s so lovely to see your child grow in front of you and so beautifully.
On why every mother is a supermum
Indian mums are not at all under any kind of pressure to be supermums because you do what you are capable of doing. You have families here, you have parents, we all live in joint families, and some of us who don’t live in joint families, our parents are right there to help us.
There are people to help you around and there is help around. If you’re able to handle it alone, that’s great. But there’s nothing called a supermum. In my world, every mum is a supermum, because when you become a mother, you sleep with your one eye open.
And trust me since I’ve had my Samara, I’ve not had a goodnight sleep because my one eye is always on her.
On being a fitness inspiration to working mums
Just remember to watch what you eat. Honestly, just zip your mouth and by that I mean that eat everything, but in moderation. Never deprive yourself of anything. If you deprive yourself of something you’ll end up going on a binge. If you want to have that chocolate, have a piece. Have everything but in moderation.
Am not saying go on a diet, it's all rubbish. The more you diet, the more you want to eat, its psychological. So eat everything, but limit yourself and workout.
That’s my mantra. I eat everything I want to, I don’t overdo, it, I don’t deprive myself. Because when you say ‘No’ even to yourself, you want to do it more.
As for working out, don’t overdo workout as well, but don't leave it either. Considering our busy lifestyles, it’s very important to workout. Make sure to either walk every 30 minutes in a day, or do yoga or perform any kind of physical activity, just do the basic minimum. Even if you run down the stairs, that’s a good workout. And be happy.
On her style inspiration
My mother is my icon and role model. Whatever I have, however I dress, whatever my style is, it’s because of her. She’s my style guru. She’s someone I’ve always looked up to.
Even if I have to go out somewhere I’ll take a picture and send it to her, so that she tells me whether she’ likes I or if she has any tips on how to improve the look.
As a working mother myself, my job requires me to be comfortable. So I always wear clothes that am comfortable in. You should always wear clothes that make you feel comfortable. If you’re a stay-at-home mum, wear comfortable clothes. Remember, you wear what you are. Don’t try to ape somebody, because what looks good on somebody, may not look good on you.
Get your own style out, wear clothes that fit right and what suit your personality. And of course, with a smile on your face.
On the inspiration behind her work
For 6-7 years my mum and I modeled together for a jewellery brand. When that got over, I started wondering about my own line. But I was never interested in jewellery to be very honest.; back in the day, when I was young.
But the interest came after we became ambassadors to the brand (Mahesh Notandas Jewellers). Then I got really interested. I kept asking a few jeweller friends to work on designs I would hand them over. So I thought to myself, “If am asking my jeweller friend to make a design I create, why not do it myself and sell it outside?”
So that’s how it came to being. It’s been an year old now and it started in January last year. Our USP is everyday jewelry, you can wear it in the day to night, at a date, on lunch and also it’s affordable.
That’s because I don’t see too many women wearing sets these days, young girls especially. They’d rather wear a bangle or a tennis bracelet; contemporary, basic everyday jewellery, and that’s what we’re doing. As of today, we were shipping worldwide and we hope to expand even in countries where it hasn’t been possible so far.
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