Raising Well-Behaved Kids
Many people think that parents who have well-behaved kids are very lucky. But having kids who behave really well doesn’t have anything to do with luck.
Many people think that parents who have well-behaved kids are very lucky. But having kids who behave really well doesn’t have anything to do with luck. It takes a lot of patience, hard work and determination to raise kids who are able to practice good behaviour. Here are ten tips that can help you raise well-behaved kids:
1. Model good behaviour. The best way to teach kids how to behave well is by showing them how to do it. Actions are more powerful than words. If they see you practice good behaviour yourself, then they are most likely to follow your example. If you respect elders in your home and follow traditional practices like touching feet etc., your children will emulate your behavior and do the same.
2. Communicate rules and expectations clearly. Kids do not know right from wrong. They need to be taught which actions are acceptable and which are not. Use words that they will understand and make sure that you are very specific. It is the responsibility of parents to help their children have a sense of with-it-ness by constantly giving them reminders so inappropriate behaviour can be prevented.
3. Reward good behaviour immediately. The best way to help children to behave well is to give them rewards whenever they do something good which can be in the form of words, gestures and gifts. Right timing is essential as children should be able to associate rewards with good behaviour. If you give the reward too late, they may not understand what it is for.
A simple pat in the back or “well done” is usually enough to tell children that they have done the right thing. It is fine to occasionally give them gifts. However, you have to constantly check their motivation for behaving well. Make sure that it is not just because of the gifts.
4. Encourage them often. Children are inspired to practice good behaviour if they know that you believe in them. Constantly rooting for your children will help them to make better choices.
5. Train them early. Your kids are never too young to make good behavioural choices. Experts say that a child’s foundations for character are established before the age of five. So it important that you do all you can when they are still in preschool to prepare them for the real world.
6. Be firm and consistent. Your children are smarter than you think they are. When you give in to what they want once, they will expect you to give in to them all the time. They are most likely to test your resolve when you are in a gathering. Do not waver just because there are many people around, stick to the rules. If they persist and throw a tantrum, deal with them privately.
7. Give them room to grow. Allow your children to make their own decisions as it is not healthy for you to always shadow them. Let them make mistakes sometimes so they will learn to be more responsible for their actions.
8. Do not deal with your children when you are angry. It is unwise to correct them when emotions are running high as you might just say or do things that you will regret later. Allow yourself to cool off before you talk to them.
9. Provide a healthy and positive environment at home. Allow your children to grow according to their unique personalities and characteristics. Never compare them to other children as this can only cause them to experience undue pressure and stress. Not to mention that it can cause them to have low self-esteem.
10. Love them unconditionally. Correct your children when they are wrong but love them regardless of how they behave. They have to understand that your love for them does not depend on their actions or performance.