In a shocking piece of news, actress Preity Zinta's cousin Nitin Chauhan committed suicide in his car owing to a matrimonial dispute in Shimla on Saturday.
News reports say that 38-year-old Nitin shot himself with a pistol in a vehicle bearing the registration number HP 51 2089 near Sector 2, new Shimla. It has also come to light that Nitin has blamed his wife and in-laws in the two suicide notes he left for the police, one in the car and one at him home, before taking the extreme step.
“The victim and his wife had separated two years ago. The case regarding legal separation was pending in the court. The hearing of the case was on Friday. In both suicide notes, of four pages each, Chauhan blamed his wife and in-laws of harassing him,” a senior police official said. Police say that Nitin has also mentioned that not only did his wife and in-laws harass him by filing false cases against him, they also didn't let him meet his son.
Police have registered a case of abetment against the in-laws on the basis of the suicide notes. Mr. Chauhan’s wife Pravin Dulta (34) and his parents-in-law Prem Singh Dulta (60) and Sulochna Dulta (55) were arrested on the basis of his suicide notes on Sunday.
“It’s indeed shocking that nobody came to the rescue of this father (Nitin Chauhan) as he was missing his son. His wife had filed false cases against him to keep him away from his children,” said Child rights activist Kumar V. Jahgirdar.
Mr. Jahgirdar, President of Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting which promotes the cause of shared parenting in case of divorces, said that the government should declare “parental alienation” a crime and make shared parenting mandatory for divorced/separated couples.
Shared Parenting after a divorce
While the divorce proceeding and court hearings in itself can be tough to deal with, couples should understand the kids should not be affected by it and cooperate to make help them cope with it. Here's how you can do it amicably:
1. Make them feel important and secure: No matter how much malice you have for each other, when it comes to the kids, make sure that they don't feel left out or ignored. Be amicable in front of them to make them feel secure and loved.
2. Don't bad mouth the other parent: Understand that your spouse would always be a parent for your child and criticizing him or bad mouthing him in front of your kids would only make them unstable.
3. Be honest with them: Never hide anything from your kids and be as honest with them as possible, depending on their age. Remind them time and again on how important they are for you and that the divorce had nothing to do with them.
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