Papon kiss controversy: How far should parents go to make their child successful?

As a mother of a girl, I am not comfortable with any of the happenings in the video, leave alone the controversial kiss. My question is: How far should parents go to make their child successful?

Besides the shocking death of actress Sridevi in a Dubai hotel, the one incident that has been making headlines for the last couple of days is the "Papon kiss controversy".

For those who don't know, singer Papon was caught kissing his mentee, an 11-year-old girl, on an FB live video that was being aired for a reality TV show.

Papon kiss controversy: How far should you push your kids?

The video triggered an uproar and Papon was fired from the TV channel for indecent behaviour. The singer also issued an apology later on saying that he was an "extremely affectionate and expressive" person.

"To show affection for an 11-year old child who I have been mentoring for a while now is not an alien concept for me. What you saw in the video is not intentional. It was just a moment of affection that is being portrayed otherwise," he told the media.

Papon even agreed that in today's day and age, his actions were not appropiate.

"I might have done it spontaneously but in today's environment, to touch a girl child, however innocent your thoughts are, is not advisable. I am sorry for that," he added.

The video has been aired on many channels and one can clearly see Papon kissing the little girl.

A wakeup call for all parents

While the singer later issued an apology and said that he treated the girl like his own daughter, the case points at another issue altogether. For those who've seen the video, did you also see how the other kids were behaving in the video?

They are all screaming and shouting in the hope to gain some camera spotlight, a bite, a picture somewhere in the video. They look obssessed, hungry for attention, itching to get the mike and say something so that their bite is aired on TV. 

In fact, the girl who's kissed by Papon does not look like an 11-year-old. She's dressed up like an adult! As a mother of a girl, I am not comfortable with any of the happenings in the video, leave alone the controversial kiss. My question is: How far should parents go to make their child successful?

It's a race out there

And, this is not the only case. It's happening everywhere, every day. It's a race out there! Kids are being pushed by parents to be successful in whatever they take up. In some cases I feel, parents pushing their kids to do something they always wanted to do in their childhood.

But in the process they forget, is that the rigth thing to do? Shouldn't they be asking their child if they are really interested in pursuing a hobby or an activity? 

Is it okay for parents to push little ones to participate in competitions, talent shows and other events against their will? Is it okay for parents to push their child to be excellent? And how far should they go to make sure their child is successful? Because excellence has become the new average and to be above excellent you have to strive harder.

The parents of the girl in the video have defended Papon in the video and said that the singer is like a "father figure" to their child. Perhaps because they don't want their child to miss this race of being successful and above average. 

Do you think they are right? Tell us in the comments below.

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[Grabs and video courtesy: YouTube]