Do you have new baby stress? Here are 5 ways to cope with the change
But the good news is you are the only new parents grappling with this change and you can adopt a simple plan. Read on to know more
Congratulations, you just became new parents! Now that the easy part is over, it's time for the actual work to begin! Yes, you read that right.
You may have had it easy during pregnancy, with just making sure you are healthy and well-rested. But within just a few hours, you'll have a life filled with diapers, cries, coos, cuddles, feed and lots of clothing changes.
But the good news is you are the only new parents grappling with this change. There are many just like you who are perhaps going through the same. And while these changes may come as an initial shock to you, a simple plan can help you cope with it easily.
We spoke to Dr Samir Parikh, director, Mental Health and Behavioural Sciences, Fortis Memorial Research Institute, Delhi, who shared simple tips to help new parents cope with a new baby in the house.
He suggests that while most new parents sometimes overlook their feelings to take care of the baby, the actual philosophy should be to accept your own feelings and gear up to take care of the baby. Here's how you can do it:
#1 Acknowledge your feelings
Welcoming a first-born into the family is definitely a moment of excitement and immense joy, though often coupled with fear, apprehensions and at times even distress, which could be difficult to understand and deal with.
Therefore, it's imperative that one must first acknowledge the fear, if at all. This will help you come up with solutions to overcome that fear and work towards taking care of not just yourself, but also your little one.
#2 Rely on a strong support system
"Yes, this is your moment but do not hesitate to take the help of those around you who are experienced, and can help you in managing trivial things to do or not to do in such situations," says Dr Parikh.
Modern new parents often try to work everything by themselves, but that's exactly what can wear them out. It's important that you seek help from your family members and friends when the need be. It's best to ask for help sooner, rather than lament later.
#3 Don’t overdo it
Despite being eager to take the best care of your child, it is important for you to remember not to overdo it. "Don’t try to be a ‘super-parent’. Set limits, and don’t let yourself get fatigued or burnt out in your efforts," advises Dr Parikh.
There is nothing more harmful than a parent trying to be a perfectionist. Everything will fall apart at one point, but then it will also fall right back into place. All you need to practice as new parents is patience and let things happen at their own pace.
Dr Parikh says, "As most of our energies (and of those around us) tend to be focused towards the baby, it is very important for you to create time for yourself and your own care, including your sleep, routine and lifestyle."
For you to completely take care of the baby, you must first be healthy and prepared yourself. Yes, it's true that you cannot just leave your baby to somebody so you can sleep, but that's exactly where help comes into picture. Get some rest and rejuvenate yourself before you dive into diaper duties.
#5 Be open to seeking help
As new parents, be aware of the warning signs if you are being unable to deal with the new change. "It is not uncommon to experience postpartum blues, and therefore be open to reach out for help, says Dr Parikh.
Caregiving and participating in the parenting process with all your dedication is not possible if you are going through such emotional disturbances.
"Make sure you have kept aside some “me myself time” in your day where you are able to sit and relax and plan further for any requirements from your side. Follow a routine wherein you are following a good sleep wake cycle and eating a healthy diet and exercising for at least 20-30 minutes in a day," advises Smriti Sawhney, Chief Psychologist at ePsyClinic.com
By simply following a similar plan, you can make the new transition easy on yourself as well as on your baby.
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