I am a happily married 35 year old caught in the mundane task of balancing kids, work and family. My husband works in the corporate world and I am an advertising executive.
Both of us work long hours and like most urban couples try to steal in some time for ourselves once in a while when the kids are asleep and we do not have early commitments at work.
Last week was one such night. After tucking in my 8-year old and 4-year-old to bed in the kids’ room I went to my bedroom. As it happens in a ten-year-old marriage, spontaneous sex is a bit of a rarity in our marriage and often we communicate with each other in silent language that after the kids sleep we can indulge in a bit of ‘us’ time.
So, just like one of those nights I went to the bed and found my husband waiting for me. Touchwood my kids are sound sleepers but I still check on them once in a while when I wake up.
As a safeguard though, my husband and I do not ever lock our doors. That night as usual we chit chatted a little bit of our work and then we got busy making love. We generally let go of a prolonged session but since the next morning was an off owing to a festival we treated ourselves to a bit more intense lovemaking.
After a long time, my husband was whispering those sweet nothings in my ear as we were passionately kissing and indulging in foreplay. Just as our session was at its peak and we were just in the middle of reaching orgasm, we heard a gasp.
We turned around to find my 8-year-old daughter standing with hands on our mouth standing looking shocked and surprised.
I have never felt more embarrassed
Truth be told, I have never felt more embarrassed in my life that I felt in that moment. For a few seconds my husband and I just froze.
Somehow I gathered some courage and reached for my nightie and quickly covered myself. Next I took my daughter in my arms and took her to her room. I put her in bed again and just told her that she should have knocked before coming to mumma and papa’s bedroom. She remained silent and slept.
The next morning on breakfast table I felt shyer than my daughter but she remained silent than her usual self. After a day or two she was her usual self but I am worried on how should I explain it to her.
My husband thinks that we should ignore the episode but I feel my daughter needs an explanation. She may be too young to understand that its normal for couples to have sex or perhaps she may not know anything about sex.
Since she is still a little young I do not know if I need to tell her about the birds and the bees and even if I do it will be most unfortunate that her first memories of understanding about sex would be catching her parents in the act. I do not want her to be scarred. Please help me tackle this extremely difficult situation I have found myself in.
*The author's name has been withheld on request
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