Monday to Friday romance guide for mums to build weekend intimacy
Mummies, if you feel you are hardly ever getting any couple moments with your partner, the trick is to not just focus on sex, but try other things too.
Let’s face it. Once you have kids, no matter what amount of intimacy, love and understanding you share with your partner, the frequency of those private moments does go down. When you are a parent, the week goes by in the chaos of school rush, home assignments, project work, tuitions, hobby classes, and not to mention, the many house and office tasks.
No surprise then that most couples are barely able to have a basic conversation while having dinner (if you are lucky enough to eat dinner as a family!), forget about cuddle or cosy time. And even before you know it, the weekend arrives and is gone.
But moms, if you feel you are hardly ever getting any couple moments with your partner, the trick is to not just focus on sex, but try other things too.
Monday to Friday romance guide to build that intimacy
Here are many other small things that can help you cosy up, till you find some free hours on the weekend.
Write a small note to your partner about how you had a wonderful weekend with him, and how you can’t stop but think about it. It could be a drive you guys went out for, with or without kids, a meal you had outside somewhere, a movie you watched together, or even, the sex you had. Telling your partner that you are thinking about him will make him feel special and loved, and will be a great start to the week.
Cook his favourite meal. It could be the entire dinner menu, one special dish that he actually loves, or even the dessert. But wait, don’t serve it to him at the table. Serve it out in a bowl and keep it aside, then tell him you will feed him yourself once the kids are in bed. If not, feed him a spoon right there at the table, and then let him enjoy it.
Did you ever receive flowers? Remember how it made you smile? Even if you haven’t, try this small but very sure way to make your partner really feel special. You can order it online, which is really very easy, or, if not possible, check with a florist beforehand and talk about delivery options (most florists do so).
Wear something he gave you, recently or long back. It could be a sari that he loves seeing you in, a piece of jewellery, a lipstick shade he picked for you, or even interesting lingerie. And don’t forget to tell him what that special thing is that you are wearing, coz let’s admit it, men don’t generally notice this, especially long into a marriage.
Don’t do anything. Don’t call him the entire day. He is sure to miss you and think what you are up to. In fact, at night once he is home, tell him you thought about him every day of the week, and now, you want to see what he can do on the weekend.
Couple time when you can’t always have sex
- Watch something on your phone together, if watching on TV will distract the kids
- If your kids go to hobby class, sneak out for a cup of chai at the tapri, or gol gappas, or even an ice cream or bhutta
- Set an alarm for the middle of the night, wake up and have sex
- Once the kids are asleep, take a shower together if he is not in the mood for sex, and then sleep hugging each other
- Wear your favourite perfume and hug him tight just before he is leaving for work – tell him you want him to smell of you
Moms, we are all starved on time, especially couple time, once we have kids. What tips would you share with other moms who barely find couple time with their partners?