Single mum Malaika makes a crucial life decision post divorce from Arbaaz Khan!
The recently divorced star has moved on and is using her maiden name at events now
Just days after her divorce from now ex-husband Arbaaz Khan, it seems Malaika Arora Khan has taken an important decision in her life. After having adopted her husband's famous surname, it looks like the now single mum is ready to let go of it.
Yes, you read that right.
After ending their 18-year-long matrimonial bond, the couple have gone their separate ways. In fact, the two even tried couple's counselling before their divorce was finalised, but it didn't work.
Arbaaz even admitted, "I look back and see 22 years of togetherness — five years of courtship and 17 years of marriage and a child. And I wonder why this and why that and what could have been corrected. And if there were mistakes from my end or her side. We just couldn’t work around it. We did our bit of counselling...."
Malaika drops 'Khan' from surname at an event
And now it looks like Malaika is no mood to think about this marriage and is more than willing to give it a kiss goodbye and move on to the next chapter, starting with a change of her name.
A leading entertainment daily reported that Malaika was invited as a chief guest by a jewellery brand based in Vadodra. During the press conference they added a name tag reading 'Malaika Arora Khan' in front of her seat.
However, right before she came out to address the media, Malaika requested the organisers to remove the surname 'Khan' from the tag. Naturally, they obliged and tore off the part that read 'Khan,' (see picture below).
Interestingly, the actor and now single mum has kept the surname on her social media handles including her Instagram account. It remains to be seen exactly when she would decide to make this move on those platforms.
"We should be able to say what we want and to be what we want"
But for the moment, it is pretty clear that she intends to move on and isn't afraid to say what she wants to.
In fact, Malaika recently shared the same sentiment at a press conference and said, "Everybody is so guarded. There is a certain amount of just being yourself that is robbed off everyday purely because there is so much of scrutiny.... There is a constant glare, and that is the whole point. We live in a democratic society and we should be able to say what we want and to be what we want."
She also added that people should not dictate their own rules on others, especially women.
"Yes, there are certain norms that you have to follow when living in the society, but that doesn't mean I need to be dictated or told," said the mum of one who is has not ask for any alimony from her ex-husband and allowed him complete visitation rights.
9 ways to help your kid cope with your divorce
The way this couple has so far handled their separation and come together for their son reflects their maturity and is an example to many on how to move on cordially.
And while it can be manageable for singles, it is quite difficult for parents. But there are ways you can help your kid ease into your new relationship status. We spoke to Anuja Kapur, a Delhi-based psychologist who listed 9 ways in which parents can make the process easier.
- Wait 2-3 years following divorce or the death of your spouse before seriously dating
- Date two years before deciding to marry; then date their children before the wedding
- Know how to “cook” )or make) a stepfamily
- Realize that the “honeymoon” comes at the end of the journey for remarried couples, not the beginning
- Think about the kids: “Yours and Mine”
- Manage and be sensitive to old loyalties
- Don’t expect your partner (new spouse) to feel the same about your children as you do
- Realise that remarriage has unique barriers
- Parent as a team; get your plan ready
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