THIS is why Malaika Arora Khan still uses her ex-husband's surname
Malaika Arora is still 'Malaika Arora Khan' on all of her social media platforms and she finally reveals why!
Single mum Malaika Arora was recently spotted celebrating ex-husband Arbaaz Khan's 50th birthday party. The two hung out casually at the star-studded do and proved proving that divorce doesn't necessarily mean the end of a relationship.
In fact, Malaika even posted pictures of her ex-husband cutting cakes and wishing him well on his big day. And this only goes to show that even though they are divorced, their friendship remains intact.
Certain equations don't change overnight
As Malaika herself put it, "No matter what happens or where life takes us, Arbaaz will always be integral to my life." But that's the only revelation she recently made.
During an interview, the 41-year-old single mum spoke about her divorce for the first time and said it was a difficult time for her.
"Arbaaz and I have known each other all our lives. It was emotionally difficult, but we haven't really talked about it because we are private individuals. He is very important to me," the fit mum revealed.
She added that even though she and Arbaaz are divorced, he still is family to her.
"Arbaaz is a part of my family, the father of my child. Certain equations don't change overnight. The things that happened should remain between us. It's personal. We don't have to prove anything to anybody. [Meeting Arbaaz Khan] makes my son happy, and that makes me happy. Come on! For Amu [sister Amrita Arora Ladak], he's like a brother, and he is a son to my parents. What happened is between us," shared Arora who is surprisingly still using her ex-husband's surname on her social media account.
"Yes, I do use Khan"
Although during events she prefers to be addressed by her maiden name, she hasn't let go of it on social media and here's why.
"Yes, I do use Khan (laughs). God, I haven't thought it [being single]. Honestly, it hasn't been a conscious decision. What has to happen will happen organically. Let's see where life takes me," said the single mum.
Arora was granted custody of the couple's 14-year-old son, and as any mum would she also feels Arhaan is a wonderful human being.
"Arbaaz and I think Arhaan is wonderfully special. He has his own way of assessing things and putting them into perspective. That has helped him, and us. He is focused and level-headed and never allows anything to affect him adversely, whether it's at school or elsewhere. Touch wood!" says Arora.
With both exes often praising their son, it is clear that the young chap has adopted this major in his life quite well. And the credit sure goes to the exes. But this transition takes time and patience and can be summarised in three easy steps.
- Share the news with your kids and be honest: Telling your kids the truth about what’s going on is paramount. Tell them why the marriage failed, but do it without badmouthing your former spouse. Admit to your own mistakes and faults that contributed to the failure of the marriage – kids see these things clearly anyway! Reassure them that it was in no way their fault. Tell them you love them unconditionally and you’re committed to help them through the difficult road that lies ahead.
- Keep the bitterness of your relationship away from kids: Being honest with your children does not require that you expose them to all the violence of emotion involved. Keep the negativity as private as possible.
- Don't use your kids as spies: Adults have to learn to talk. If you have something to tell your former spouse, don’t ask your kids to tell them for you; tell them yourself.