With crumbling B-town marriages making headlines each day it seems that the institution has lost its charm on many famous couples. While some felt no love for each other anymore, others just couldn't bear the infinitely anymore.
Either way many couples parted ways one after the other making divorce a common place in Bollywood. However, the sanctity of marriage is not lost on all.
Some like Kajol and Ajay Devgan who have been married for over 18 years know what it takes to keep it going and things that spouses must avoid at all times.
"We're losing tolerance"
While speaking to an entertainment daily Kajol dished out the secret to her successful marriage. She even doled out advice the things partners must never do to each other and said it's the only thins she and Ajay are always careful about.
"I think we're losing tolerance (and no, it's not an intolerance remark btw) it's about losing patience. We're just losing willingness to go that little bit far ahead or to give people their second chance," she shared.
The couple who now seem closer than ever have managed to make their 18-year-long marriage a success. Their secret is simple- being non-judgemental and having opposing personalities.
Ajay had a 'calming effect'
Kajol recently explained that the primary reason for her to marry Ajay at the peak of her career was to help her calm down.
“It was the right thing for me to do at that point of time. I had been already working for around eight and a half to nine years. So, I was ready to kind of calm down on my work front and kind of take it easier,” the 42-year-old said.
“I was doing four to five films a year. I didn’t want to do only that and to only live like that. That wasn’t what I had set out for. So I assumed that I would get married and do one film a year. I’ll be happier and be more settled,” she added while shooting for Vogue BFFs.
Plus, the fact that Kajol finds Ajay to be a great father also worked for them. Either way, these two have proved that their priorities are set right and that they are always willing to be more forgiving. Which takes to us to an important question- how to find forgiveness when you're hurt?
Well, if you're asking this question too, then here are three practical ways to forgive your partner for his/her misgivings.
3 ways to forgive and heal your marriage
- Start the stand ups: You may not be working in a stand-up but your marriage certainly is like one. You invest everythig you have in this venture and so you must make sure it succeeds. And in order to do that, follow what most CEOs do, schedule stand ups for important decisions in life and make sure to not miss them. This will help you know what your partners expects from you and where you can improve and vice-versa.
- It only happened twice: Kajol famous belted this dialogue in the movie Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." So if you feel that your partner may commit the same mistake twice, lay out a concrete plan so it doesn't happen again. Change of jobs, friends and influencers in life can be one step and the other is couple's counselling.
- Till death do us part: Remember that you have both taken sacred vows in front of your family and most importantly god. You vowed to stay with each other for better or for worse. And while it doesn't mean you should stay in an abusive marriage, it does mean that if you find peace and strength in yours and feel that it must be salvaged, you should try to make it work.
Read: 5 ways to make your marriage divorce proof
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