It was love at first sight for UPSC toppers Tina Dabi and Athar Aamir Khan!
Such a sweet love story!
When Athar Aamir Khan lost the number one spot at the UPSC exams last year, never would have he imagined that he would lose his heart to the very same woman who beat him to become the 2016 IAS topper of India.
Yes, that's right. In a one-of-a-kind love story, Tina Dabi and Athar Aamir Khan both cleared the IAS exams this year and while tina had an all India rank of one, Aamir stood second and lost the number one spot by a very marks.
However, to everyone's surprise, on November 21, Tina shared a life event with her friends and followers on Facebook declaring that she is 'in a relationship' with Aamir. Speaking to the Times of India about her wedding plans, Tina has said that though wedding would soon be on the cards, they are yet to finalise a date for the engagement.
Love at first sight
Tina also shared that it was indeed "love at first sight" for Aamir, the day they met each other at the Lal Bahadur Shastri National Academy for Administration in Mussoorie, Dehradun earlier this year.
"We met in the morning and by evening Aamir was at my door. Uske liye pehli nazar mein pyaar ho gaya (For him, it was love at first sight)," said Tina.
However, Tina didn't agree to it initially and it took Aamir a good four-five month period to win her heart. "But I thank Aamir every day for his perseverance. He is a wonderful person," she says.
Though Tina's family and friends have no such objection to their relationship, Tina fears that there will be some elements who would not really like her dating someone from another religion.
Continue reading on the next page to know what Tina has to say about people who have objected
to her "inter-caste" relationship!
"I am very happy with my choice and so is Aamir. Our parents are happy too. But there will always be those elements, that small minority who will always pass negative comments about dating someone from another religion.There are comments that are anti-caste, targeting reservations, religion. It's as if I have committed a crime by falling in love with someone who is not the same religion or caste as me," she said.
But that doesn't affect Tina and her plans.
"It is just that 5 percent. The majority are very happy. You would have seen in my Facebook timeline that most of the comments are encouraging. In fact, I am overwhelmed by the support and congratulatory messages," says an excited Tina.
Tips to make your inter-caste relationship work
While India is finally opening up to inter-cultural relationships, there are some parts that still object to such relationships. For the couple also it could be a little difficult to get accustomed to the customs and traditions of the other family. Here are a few tips that can be of help:
1. Be prepared: Know what you are getting into and be ready to face the backlash and negative comments as they are bound to come your way. However, at the same time don't let them affect your relationship and know what to keep and what to filter.
2. Be together: As a couple always stay with each other and come up with a plan to deal with the negativity and criticism.
3. Don't lose hope: In the whole process of persuading your folks to let you marry the partner of your choice, don't ever lose hope and do something that would damage your family ties of relationships. Try as hard as you can to get every body's approval before tying the knot. Ignore those who don't matter, but coax those who make a difference to your life.
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