Extra-marital affairs can have a huge toll on you and your family, especially if it results in heartbreaks and separation. That's what happened with director Vikram Bhatt and his family when he fell in love with Miss Universe and actress Sushmita Sen.
However, that relationship turned out to be the biggest regret of his life as it led to the break-up of his marriage with his childhood sweetheart Aditi. Bhatt even contemplated suicide at that time
“That was not because of Sushmita. That was because of what I’d done to my life. I had gotten divorced, my film Ghulam was yet to be released, I was only Sushmita Sen’s boyfriend, I was depressed, I missed my daughter like crazy...I had just made a mess of my life. I don’t think any one relationship in my life has wrecked me. I think I am a collection of wrecks," he revealed while talking to a leading national daily.
Bhatt now regrets abandoning his wife and child and the pain his extra-marital affairs, with actors Sushmita Sen and Ameesha Patel, caused them. However, he also clearly states that he had no plans to marry either of the two.
“No, I didn’t want to marry either of them. And it’s not like there’s any bitterness. There’s too much water under the bridge now," he said.
Bhatt also adds that things could have been better for him if he had not been weak and had the courage to talk to his wife Aditi at that time.
“I regret hurting my wife and my child and abandoning them. I regret the pain I caused them. I always believe that when you’re not courageous, you become cunning. I did not have the courage to tell Aditi how I felt. And it was all happening together, it was a big mess. I regret being weak at that time. Had I not been weak, things would have been different today. But when I look back in hindsight, it’s all about growing up, and everything teaches you something at least," he said.
Bhatt revealed these intimate details about his personal life while speaking about his new novel, A Handful of Sunshine, that many people say is his life story.
Bhatt also said that he had finally reconciled with his wife and daughter, but never wants to get married again.
“I don’t believe in the institution of marriage anymore. It’s redundant; it’s an outdated institution. It’s like lanterns in a house, you don’t use them anymore. Marriage worked because of the imbalance between a man and woman, with one dependant on the other," he said.
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Ways to resurrect your marriage
Bhatt is not alone whose marriage broke under turbulent circumstances. There are many couples who go through this phase and who do not know what to do to resurrect their dying marriage. However, instead of regretting later there are quite a few things that you can do to
revive your marriage.1. Forgive and forget: Don't stick on to mistakes and follow the principle of forgive and forget. Now that's easier said than done, but a better way to do it would be to just keep quiet and let time do the talking. Remember that if you want your marriage to stay strong, you have to ignore a few things.
2. Start afresh: Try to put your past behind and work on your relationship like it's new. Talk about things that you like doing with your partner and spend some time with him alone. Maybe take a vacation with your partner and work out a way to help make new beginnings.
3. Be hopeful: Negativity only makes things worse and having a
positive outlook towards your spouse and marriage, in general, would help you stay strong and hopeful in such trying times.
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