'I have life and space outside motherhood too'
A high-flying working woman, Delhi-based Vineeta Mittal feels motherhood shouldn't negate your existence as an individual!
The spunk that this lady brings with her, makes us sit upright and notice! Delhi-based working mother, Vineeta Mittal is a force to reckon with. Brand Director at Casa Brands Pvt. Ltd., Vineeta feels that while playing a dual role is tough, it's quite possible with smart time management.
To hear a real woman speak of real issues, hang-ups and guilt that a working mum goes through, and how she actually overcomes these with some practical solutions, read on!
So Vineeta, how does it feel playing super mum?
The feeling of being a mother is beautiful, but this does not overwhelm my entire life. I have a life and space outside motherhood as well, and this makes motherhood an even more charming proposition. I strongly believe that the more I grow and learn as a person, the better ideals and upbringing I will be able to provide to my child.
Yes, sometimes I have to stretch myself to be able to fulfill the needs of my child, and my organisation (which is like my second child), but at the end of the day, it is worth it. I hope my child will be able to look up to me as an inspiration.
Kindly tell us about yourself?
I am a very positive person and believe in myself. I am sincere and self-motivated and do not back out of any commitment once I have made up my mind. I like challenges, they stimulate me to work harder, perform better.
The only problem I have is not being aggressive enough with the people I deal with. I am still learning to overcome it. I am very sincere towards my career and do not let anybody raise a question on my capabilities.
To know about a typical day in the life of Vineeta, continue reading
What’s a typical day like in your life?
I begin with exercises and meditation in the morning to keep myself healthy and my mind focused. I then head to work and spend the day charting out strategies. In the evening, I spend quality time with my family.
I am very good at time management; I guess being a parent, especially a mother, makes you so by default. The time I am at work, I am completely at work, with no outside thoughts; and when I am home, I try to shut out everything else, except my family.
If you were to create a pie chart of your life, how would your time be divided between work, spouse, kids, friends, and self?
I balance my work and family life by managing my time properly. As I mentioned earlier, I am good at time management. I do not give precedence to one thing over the other; for me, all the major components of my life including work, spouse and kids are equally important.
I have divided my time according to the work I do during the day. However, playing a dual role is indeed a difficult task, and things do not come easy always. So far so good, family support and self-motivation have really helped me.
In addition, daily exercise and meditation has helped too. After office hours, I spend my evenings with family. Other than that, I keep my Saturdays off to take care of personal work and spend time with my daughter.
What has been Vineeta's biggest emotional struggle? Continue reading to find out
As a working mum, what are the challenges you face?
Although, I manage my time well between my work and family, sometimes I feel I’m not able to give sufficient time to my daughter. I believe this is how all working mothers feel; I am not so sure about fathers.
When my daughter was born, I had to quit my job to take care of her for a few years. Though I enjoyed bringing up the child, the urge to work professionally was always alive somewhere deep inside. This pushed me to pursue my career once again.
What has been your biggest emotional struggle while bringing up both, your career and kids?
Making sure that the needs of career and child are not compromised does give you an emotional struggle. Sometimes, when you are travelling for a few days, you may wonder whether your child would be missing you. At other times, when you take some off time for an important occasion in your child’s life, you may feel your workplace may be needing you.
So, it is always a struggle to keep yourself satisfied about doing justice to both sides. Being an entrepreneur is challenging, but at the end of the day, it gives you deep satisfaction that you have worked towards fulfilling your dreams. However, playing a dual role is indeed a difficult task.
While struggling to create a balance between work-life and your family, did things ever get bad enough that you wanted to quit? If yes, how did you manage?
I am not a quitter. When my daughter was born, I decided to leave the job and devote my full time to this new responsibility in my life. After few years, I was back into my professional life and then there was no looking back. For me, work is not a job but a passion.
Continue reading and know more about Vineeta Mittal's 'me' time!
Who has been the sounding board for you throughout your journey?
My family as well as my colleagues and friends have been with me throughout my journey. With my urge to work professionally, I caught up with few other professionals from my known circle and came up with the idea of forming Casa Brands in 2008.
They trusted the natural flair of creativity in me and gave me the responsibility of all the brands and new product development related work. On the other hand, my family extended their full support to help me achieve my dreams and ambitions.
How do you unwind over the weekend?
I like to unwind myself, by spending quality time with my family, especially my daughter, watching movies, TV, videos, sometimes shopping. On Sundays, we go for Iskcon classes. These classes take us completely out of this materialistic world and transfer to spiritual world. I find these classes really relaxing.
Your idea of me time?
According to me, my 'me' time comes in late evening when I get to catch up with friends, relatives and family. I take out time for myself, watch TV and spend some time reading.
Continue reading for advice from the lady on how to balance your family and work the fine way
What does ‘being a mom’ mean to you?
For me, it is about setting a good example for my daughter by giving her the best life within my caliber. I wish to become an inspiration for her, as my mom is for me. I want to make her an independent and confident individual who would believe in herself and her abilities, as I do.
Advice to working mums who are struggling to achieve work-life balance?
Believe in yourself and think positive. The most important factor is not to let guilt creep inside your mind. I meet many working women who confess to feeling guilty, sometimes about not being able to give their kids enough time, at other times about not being able to give their workplace more energy. This guilt leaves you nowhere.
I hardly come across fathers dealing with this guilt and this difference kind of surprises me. Remember, you do not have to prove to anybody that you are the best mom or the best entrepreneur. All you have to do is what makes you happy. Do the best in both positions, and never listen to other people’s opinions. They will always add pressure.
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