'I feel 'working mum' is an overrated term'
With four jobs in hand, Mumbai-based Dr Bhavi Mody's story will influence you enough to take it as a trigger and not let your personal goals take a backseat post-motherhood!
A a passionate medical practitioner and mother to twin daughters, Dr Bhavi Mody will make you believe in yourself and instill that essential dose of confidence and self-belief.
Considering she completed her graduation as well as PG post-motherhood, Dr Mody’s story will surely give you that much-needed nudge. Hear it from the lady on how she manages home and hearth so beautifully that we wonder if her day has more than 24 hours.
So Bhavi, how does it feel playing super-mum?
Supermum? I'm not sure about that, but yes I'm definitely a mum to twin superkids. My twin princesses make me a supermum for sure. I'm reliving my teens with them. I can't ask for anything more. The bond that we share as a family is amazing and makes me feel complete.
Kindly tell us about yourself.
I am a mother to my wonderful twin daughters, a friend and wife to my husband, and a physician and wellness consultant to my patients. A postgraduate in homeopathy, I have over two decades of clinical experience with a gold medal to my credit at graduation.
I am a passionate medical practitioner with a desire to reach out and achieve. Over the years I realised the need to educate and evolve myself. I did my graduation and PG post-motherhood. I believe that education is a way to evolve self and get better.
Currently, my work involves me as the CEO at Edupsyche Educational Services Pvt. Ltd., director at Vrudhi Homeopathic and Wellness Centre, associate director at Vrudhi Research Foundation, an expert with Oowomaniya and Nykaa and a blogger with Wearethecity.
In between all these, I take time out to write articles and conduct camps to spread awareness among people about health. My twin daughters, Vidhi and Vrushti, are now 17, studying in Class XII and aspiring to be engineers.
Continue reading to know about a typical day in the life of Dr Bhavi Mody
What's a typical day like in the life of Dr Bhavi Mody?
Typically, a weekday starts in the morning at 6.30 a.m., packing tiffins for my girls and sending them off to college. I am a family oriented person, so my family is always priority.
Clinic hours are from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. and in the evening from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. I attend to my online patients between my clinic hours. I also manage my other portfolios in between all these. Generally, Edusyche meetings are all scheduled in the afternoons post-lunch.
My husband, a child and adolescent psychiatrist, is always there to take charge. This gives me a little flexibility. I reach home by 8.30 p.m. We always have dinner together, post which we catch up with the days happenings.
By the time it is 10, we are off all gadgets—no TV or mobile. It's strictly family time. We go for drives and have fun. Being active on social media does consume a lot of time. When my kids are studying at night, I accompany them and write my articles.
What do you do to unwind on a weekend?
Weekends are generally spent relaxing. I catch up on my sleep, finish chores, shopping, grocery, etc. Again lunch is with the family. Evenings are fun. We make the most of our time on weekends. Unwinding for me is to spend quality time with my hubby, catching up with friends, reading books and at times just do nothing.
Continue reading to know how Dr Bhavi Mody divides her time effectively
If you were to create a pie chart of your life, how would your time be divided between work, spouse, kids, friends and self?
Being a mother, a wife, and a professional often gets difficult. But I believe in high thinking and simple living. My priority has always been family, I have been a mentor to my kids and believe in doing and setting an example rather than by ostentation.
Work life balance to me is simply prioritising the needs working on the important but not so urgent mode. This helps me work effectively, efficiently and effortlessly. To put it simply, plan and execute, do what you need to do now, don’t postpone it for tomorrow.
Trying to put it in numbers, out of 16 to 18 awake hours, I spend 9 hours at work, 2 to 3 hours with the family, 2 hours are dedicated to daily chores and the rest is divided among family, friends, social networking and me time.
What is your idea of 'me' time?
My idea of 'me' time is to relax, unwind do something that makes you feel good, maybe just chatting with friend or shopping or just lazying around or anything that gives you peace of mind and happiness.
Continue reading to know what has helped Dr Mody in her parenting journey
What according to you has helped you through your parenting journey?
My belief in my parents has always helped me to become not just a better mother but a better human being. I have imbibed from them virtues of unconditional love and benevolence.
As a working mum, what are the challenges you face at work and at home? How do you get through those challenges?
Planning is important, so is taking every day as it comes. Juggling with roles is not so difficult, but the responsibility it brings along often is demanding and taxing. Being a mother is not difficult, but the responsibility of becoming a better mother every day sometimes is.
While we are posed with many challenges in life, I take every day as it comes and steer through the highs and lows. The family bonding, and their love and support is immense. My family is very understanding and cooperative. My husband is my guide and mentor. He is very supportive.
My daughters are very understanding and cooperative. My strength is my husband and my parents. When you decide to do right and give your best in all roles you can carry on.
For some advice on achieving the work-life balance from Dr Mody, continue reading
What does being a working mum mean to you?
I feel it has always been on overrated terminology, though in the past it included a lot of tangible and non-tangible work. I believe the world is changing and we do see a lot of sharing of responsibility happening between couples and a lot of self-respect and dignity instilled in women.
Coming from a profession which always looks at solutions to problems and not challenges, I believe working mums are much more empowered today.
What is your advice to working mums who are struggling to achieve work-life balance?
Believe in your abilities and strength. Each person has qualities that can make a difference. Be the change you want to see in others. Have a positive attitude in life and never give up. Believe in yourself, move on. We are a revolution waiting to happen.
Just remember the three P’s to success—patience, persistence and perseverance.
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