My husband provides for me and is loyal, but I am still unhappy. Please HELP

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Is this love? Or are we living just as friends or acquaintances in the same house?

I have been married for more than 12 years now, and it was a love marriage. Initially, we were friends, and once we realized we were spending almost all our time at each other’s home, our parents suggested we should think more about where our relationship was headed.

We were our best friends...

We already knew each other very well, and both of us had discussed what we wanted to do in the future. I barely had any other friends, and so did he, and it was only logical that we tied the knot.

We had a simple family ceremony, with the blessings of our family and friends. We were happy for the first year or two. It was just the two of us, and we were truly each other’s support and strength.

Once our kids were born, I gave up work, and most of my time was spent in looking after them. My husband was busy though, and now that we had a family to take care of, he decided to take on more responsibilities.

He wanted to provide our children with the best of everything, and he has been an amazing father. Our children have never had to ask for anything, and even before they wish for it, they have it.

He has always looked after my needs...

My husband provides for me and is loyal, but I am still unhappy. Please HELP

My husband has always looked after my financial needs, and he would give me a monthly sum, just to spend on myself. I never had to worry about shopping, emergency expenses, home bills or anything – everything was taken care of, and still is.

Now my kids are grown up, and I have joined back my office again after the long break. However, I am not sure whether this is a good thing or bad. I have met some of my old colleagues and have also made new friends, I am more confident and happier when I am at work. I talk a lot, just like I used to earlier, and I am always excited, curious and positive in my attitude.

But the moment I reach back home, things change. I can see that now, after so many years of not really talking to each other and being busy with our own duties towards the family and kids, I barely have anything to talk to my husband about.

He is a nice man, really, and I know that he genuinely cares for me, and I do too. And if tomorrow anything would happen to him or to me, we would be there doing everything for the other. But all that apart, where is the love?

Is this what love is? I am scared to live like this for the rest of my life...

Is this love? Or are we living just as friends or acquaintances in the same house? We are not interested to listen to what the other did, we barely have any physical contact, and honestly, I am not even interested in sex anymore, and somehow, the only question I keep asking myself is – “Is this what marriage is? Do I have to live the rest of my life like this, without really being happy and excited about my partner?”

I have thought about divorce, maybe it will be fair on both of us. I am not a selfish woman, and I really want us both to be happy. What can I do? Have any of you also been through this? Can you help?

Also Read: After 10 years of marriage and two kids, my husband is in love with my sister.

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