Here's why I praise my kids in front of others and am not ashamed of it
I feel that each time I talk about something positive about my kids to others, especially when my kids are around, it just makes them more assured that ma is proud of them and makes them a little more positive and confident to do more the next time.
If you grew up in a regular middle class family like I did, I am sure you heard your mom say tell you at least once in your entire childhood that while she was very proud of you, she did not want to say it out loud in front of others.
Why? I would ask, each time my ma said so.
And each time she would tell me that praising your own child in front of others, especially family members, can be seen as bragging. So, each time I did something nice, or got appreciated in school for something, she would treat me to something nice, even something simple but special such as my favourite home cooked food, but would not really talk about it in front of anyone else other than tell my baba about it.
Honestly, I never understood the logic then, and did feel she could have generally talked about it (I am sure she did mention some good things about me in passing to others, but I would not really know about it).
I want my kids to stay rooted to the simple life and values
Coming back to the present, when I have two kids of my own, I think a lot has changed in the way parenting has shaped up now. Of course the basic idea remains the same, at least for me, and I want my kids to stay rooted to the simple life and values that will help them grow up into level headed and caring human beings.
As a mother, I am constantly trying to help my children better themselves, and also develop their own strengths and overcome their weaknesses. And a big part of my parenting also involves making my kids confident and to be able to love themselves. In addition to letting them know how much I love them and telling them how proud they make me, I also love sharing these big mommy achievements with people I know will genuinely be happy for my children.
It just makes them more assured and confident
Now, before you start thinking I love to brag about my kids, no, I do not. I feel there is a big difference between bragging and boring others with how smart or amazing your kids are, and genuinely feeling excited about something they did and wanting to share it with some friends or close ones. Don’t you think so?
I feel that each time I talk about something positive about my kids to others, especially when my kids are around, it just makes them more assured that ma is proud of them and makes them a little more positive and confident to do more the next time. Just my feeling.
But tell me mommies, do you feel this is fine, and do you also do something like this? Or do you feel this is not really something you feel is important? Would love to hear your comments on the same.