I discussed sex with my husband, and here is what happened
Are wives not supposed to talk about their sexual feelings with their partners? Who else should we share this most intimate thought with then?
I have been married for just over a year now, and as it was a love marriage, we both have been continuing the honeymoon period even now.
My husband is in the corporate sector, and while he is generally very busy through the week, he does not travel much. We live alone in the city, and happily, both of us absolutely enjoy each other’s company too much to want to make friends outside.
Often, some people in our social group have commented that we seem too happy with each other, and it seems as if we don’t really need anyone else in our lives. And I think it is true.
I am happy to say that till date, I have always been able to talk honestly and openly to my husband about anything, and I mean absolutely anything.
But yesterday, something happened and left me crying and shocked.
For the first time since we got married, my husband had to go on a work trip that meant I would not see him for almost a month. We have never been away from each other for so long, so of course, it was extremely hard for me. He too was not very happy about it and has called me and done video chats with me multiple times each day.
Yesterday, I suddenly felt a huge urge to be with him. And no, more than just in the emotional or loving sense, it felt like a strong sexual urge.
I don’t know why it happened. It just happened. Nothing I can think of triggered that feeling. It was just another day at home, I was alone, had been reading a simple book, and didn’t even realize when I dozed off. And then suddenly I woke up, feeling very sleepy, but also feeling a sudden physical need for my husband.
I looked at the clock and realized he would be busy. I left him a message to call me when he got free.
And he did.
I told him about the episode, how I was craving for him. He was quiet. I didn’t know what happened, so I asked him if he was tired.
And then he said something that left me crying and in tears.
He said, “Well, I can very well understand what you must have felt after that. I am sure you must have felt like finding someone in my absence and having sex, since you definitely cannot stay away from sex. And if you do that, make sure I don’t find out.”
He doesn't trust me!!
And he disconnected!
He hasn’t spoken to me the entire day today, and I have not stopped crying either. I did send him a message asking him to please call me back, but he has not, and I am not in a position to speak. I think I won’t be able to stop crying.
Mommies, what did I do wrong? Did I make a mistake by sharing everything openly with him? Are wives not supposed to talk about their sexual feelings with their partners?
Who else should we share this most intimate thought with then? Please tell me what I should do now. I cannot understand this side of him.