Dangal star Zaira Wasim molested! Why can't women stand up for themselves??
My simple question is – what stopped Zahira from standing up and confronting the man there and then?
Honestly, I was not even aware of the entire Zaira Wasim alleged molestation situation that has apparently taken social media by storm. One of the main reasons is of course that I am barely anywhere active on social media, and was spending all my non-work hours these past days just reading and being with the kids.
So it was interesting when a friend I met in the morning told me about it and asked me what I thought about it. She was upset that this was turned into such a viral video drama, and was confused as to why the actor had not taken a stand there and then and confronted the man!
I had no clue, so she updated me about how Zaira Wasim was on a flight (I looked up later and saw it was Air Vistara) and how the male passenger sitting behind her had placed his foot next to her and was rubbing her neck and back with it.
Zaira Wasim molested on a flight
Apparently, the young actress clicked a picture of the foot (!) because she could not get a decent shot of the man as the lights in the cabin were dim.
And then, after she landed, she shot a video of herself where she is seen crying and is heard saying:
"So, I just landed and you know the whole irony of this is that the guy... this is not done at all. This is not the way, this is not a girl should be made to feel because this is terrible. Is this how they are doing to take care of girls? No one will help us if we don't decide to help ourselves. This is the worst thing."
Adding further why she could not get a picture of the man and could only click his foot, she says, "Managed to get this (shot of the molester's foot). The lights were dimmed so it was even worse. It continued for another 5-10 minutes and then I was sure of it. He kept nudging my shoulder and continued to move his foot up and down my back and neck," she posted.
"I tried to record it on my phone to understand it better. But because the cabin lights were dimmed, I failed to get it. I ignored it the first time, blamed the turbulence for it. Until I woke up to this pleasant sight of his beautiful foot rubbing my back and neck... Guess he couldn't sit like a civilized human being and placed his foot on my arm rest while he's fully 'pheloaed' his body on his seat (sic)"
In this day of social media and camera phones, everyone can record and share it on social media and bring things to the attention of the world.
But my simple question is this – what stopped Zahira from standing up and confronting the man there and then? Why did she just sit there and allow the man to continue doing this 5 to 10 minutes (as she says in the video) and not just stop it there? If she had enough time to record all of it, click it and then make a video after she landed, what was the problem in confronting him right there?
Did she even call in the crew and complain? What is the basis of blaming the airline for not looking after her? I have seen incidents where a co-passenger has not been on the best of behaviour, and the crew has promptly taken action. I do not for once believe that she complained to the crew and they ignored it.
I am not judging, but my point is – her entire video going live on social media is an irony itself with her own statement, where she says “No one will help us if we don't decide to help ourselves.”
I am sorry you had to go through this Zahira, but the fact is, you did nothing to help yourself. Instead of relying on the phone and crying and telling the world how much injustice you had to suffer, get up, shout out, shame the person and then see.
And yes my dear, do not wait for others to come and help you. The sad truth is, no one will, unless you do it for yourself, so be brave, fight the injustice and make it stop right there.
I hope you feel a little better and I wish you more strength to you next time. And no, don't forget this incidence ever, but use it to give you strength.