Why do couples fight when they stop having sex?
In a marriage, sex is important not only for pleasure, or procreation, but it also helps keep up the romance and the intimacy in a marriage. However, why is it that when even loving and sweet couples stop having sex, they tend to fight more or have more disagreements as a result?
You'll be surprised to know that there's actually a scientific explanation as to why a lack of sex results in more fights and arguments. The reason behind it is that whenever couples stop having sex, their brains release less "feel-good" chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins, which can change their personality.
Having less "feel-good" hormones can cause couples to fight more often, especially if they're stressed out.
However, this isn't the only reason why some couples fight whenever they stop having sex. It can also be the case that if one partner declines to have sex, the other partner might feel rejected, or they might feel that their partner no longer wants to be with them or isn't happy with their relationship, which isn't always the case.
These negative thoughts can then lead to feelings of insecurity in the relationship, which can cause couples to fight over things that they don't normally fight about.
The most straightforward solution would be for couples to find time to be intimate and have sex. Having regular sex in the relationship really does help bring couples together and makes the couple feel more secure in their marriage. Sometimes all you need to have more sex is to talk to your spouse and figure out how you can make time for each other. Focus on looking for solutions instead of arguing over problems.
However, not all couples can simply have sex whenever they want to, especially for couples who need to take care of kids, or couples who are busy with work. In those cases, the best thing to do would be to talk things over with your spouse. Make sure that the both of you are on the same page, and that both of you understand why you can't have as much sex as before. Make it clear that you still love each other, but your circumstances make it difficult for you to have regular sex.
The important thing is to always find time for each other. Couples should make time for each other and focus on their marriage and their relationship. Marriages require constant work, and couples should make sure to be the best that they can be for each other.
*Republished with permission from The Asianparent Philippines