Bonding with Newborn for Moms

Bonding with your baby is a process that takes time. It is something that results from everyday care-giving. So, if mothers like me want to continue bonding with their babies, this article will show you how.


It was a wondrous moment! I look in awe at my baby the first moment she came out of my womb and into this world. All the terrible pain that I experienced from labour were incomparable to the overflowing joy I felt when I saw my baby. Tears welled up in my eyes as she was placed in my abdomen. I felt the strong urge to nurture and care for my baby. How happy I was!

I can never forget the time when I gave birth to my first baby. Yes, it was painful but the joy of knowing that another life has been formed in my womb is overwhelming. And the attachment I felt for my baby deepened. I cannot explain it but it is the kind of closeness which is more than what I felt for my parents, my siblings, my friends or my husband. Probably this is what they call the special bond between mother and child. However, I believe that bonding with my baby is a process that takes time. It is something that results from everyday interaction with her. So, if mothers like me want to continue bonding with their babies, this article will show you how.

During pregnancy

Bonding actually starts while the unborn baby is still in the mother’s tummy. The changes that are taking place in the mother’s body indicate that another life is growing inside. So as these changes are taking place, bond with your unborn baby by talking to him or her. Your baby can already hear and recognize your voice even at four months old. And as the baby grows, he or she will respond to your voice when you talk to him or her.

After birth

Mother and child bonding which started in the womb can continue right after the baby is born in the hospital. Arrange for your doctor and the attendants for your baby to be placed on your abdomen and chest before routine procedures are done. If it is possible and if you are not too exhausted, let your baby breastfeed right after birth. But if it’s not possible, ask for a room-in with your baby to give you and your baby time to bond and for you to breastfeed your baby. Make sure that your baby stays with you throughout your stay in the hospital.

When you go home from the hospital, bond with your baby through these activities:

Have constant physical contact with your baby. Holding and carrying your baby makes him or her feel comforted since it is the earliest way of communication for him or her. Likewise, touching your baby’s skin is said to have a therapeutic value on your baby. Breastfeeding is also a form of physical contact which strengthens the bond you have with your baby. Massaging your baby at least once a day is another form of physical contact and can also be beneficial to your baby’s health.

Look into your baby’s eyes. Your baby can communicate and connect with you through eye-to-eye contact. Keep your baby close within a distance of 8 to 10 inches so he or she can see you. When you talk to her, look at those beautiful eyes and you will learn how your baby responds to you.

Talk to your baby. If your baby can already recognize your voice even while he or she was inside your womb, then the more he or she will recognize your voice outside of it. Aside from that, babies love to listen to voices. So speak constantly to your baby. Talk to him or her when doing something such as taking a bath, changing diapers, and a lot more. You can even read stories or sing songs to him or her. In this way, your baby can learn sounds to help in his or her language skills development.

Bonding can take place every time you care for your baby everyday. If you felt that there is yet no strong connection between you and your baby, don’t despair because bonding will really take time.