Arbaaz Khan finally shares the REAL reason of his separation from Malaika
In his explosive interview, Arbaaz Khan dished out the most controversial details about his relationship with estranged wife Malaika Arora Khan
And while so far the two have maintained cordial relations, standing by each other for the sake of their 14-year-old son Arhaan, it seems that their love story has finally come to an end.
Yes, you read that right. In an explosive interview to a leading daily, Arbaaz Khan has finally revealed the candid details of his relationship status with estranged wife Malaika.
"Malaika was somebody I couldn’t live without"
He started by admitting that his estranged wife was so important to him at one point that he was sure he couldn't live without her, under any circumstance.
"Needed her in a way like you need water. It’s not whether you like it or not, you need it, like air. If I don’t get it, I’ll die. So, there comes a point in your life that somebody in your life — your parent, brother, sister or colleague — you need them like that and you should never look at anyone like that. You give someone the importance that they become so valuable in your life. Imagine somebody taking water or oxygen away from you, how would you feel? That’s almost what I felt for a while. Of course, you get used to it," he shared indicating that somewhere down his 17 year marriage, he lost his wife.
He shared that he often looks back at their marriage and how the two were unable to work out their differences.
"We just couldn’t work around it"
Khan put all speculations about a reconciliation to rest when he recently admitted that his 17-years of marriage has finally come undone.
"I look back and see 22 years of togetherness — five years of courtship and 17 years of marriage and a child. And I wonder why this and why that and what could have been corrected. And if there were mistakes from my end or her side. We just couldn’t work around it. We did our bit of counselling...," he shared adding that he wanted Malaika to stay away from him deliberately.
"You have to just let go, what do you do? It is not easy. We are on good terms. For a while, I wanted her to stay away from me. When you live together and are not together and yet you are together in so many ways, it gets complicated. I said, ‘Just live your life.’ I wanted a gap. The first year, it was, aise nahi ki itna gap de do ki, genuinely, she or I don’t want it," he shared.
Khan admits that after all this, he is finally single and has move out the house the couple lived in together.
"Initially, I moved out. Now, she has moved out of our house. She has got her own place and stuff. I am living in this whatever — you know, usika hai jo bhi hai — jab mera nayaa ghar hoga, main shift karunga (Everything is her's only, when I get my own place I will shift out)," he said adding, "I am not in a relationship. I am dating, yes."
Not getting back together
It seems that Khan has set the record straight about his current relationship status and there is no way that the two are getting back together anytime soon. "I feel, if we had to get more time, we would have got back by now. The fact that we haven’t, means it is not meant to be," he shared.
Even so, the parents are committed to make their relationship as friendly as possible for the sake of their 14-year-old son.
The doting father says that while the couple were undergoing their separation, their son focussed himself on to his studies.
"In the years that we have been apart, my son has focused on his studies, on his health, athletics and whatever else he is doing. Which is very credible because he could have very well used our separation as an excuse and said, ‘I don’t feel like studying’ or got into bad company...We have realised that he knew that there was a situation in the family and he put his focus into his activities and full credit to him. There is a parenting that still happens and we are more careful with him," shared the proud father.
It is quite clear that while the couple will not get back together, they are very much a family and are setting a good example of parenting. Because otherwise the aftermath of a broken marriage can be disastrous on a kid.
3 ways to counsel children of a broken marriage
We spoke to Delhi-based psychologist Anuja Kapur about the subject and she shed some light on the ways a parent can adopt. "There may be no tougher task in the world than to help your children cope with your divorce and a subsequent remarriage," says Kapur as she lists the practical ways for parents can help their kids.
- Be honest with them: Telling your kids the truth about what’s going on is paramount. Tell them why the marriage failed, but do it without badmouthing your former spouse. Admit to your own mistakes and faults that contributed to the failure of the marriage – kids see these things clearly anyway! Reassure them that it was in no way their fault. Tell them you love them unconditionally and you’re committed to help them through the difficult road that lies ahead.
- Protect your kids from negativity: Being honest with your kids does not require that you expose them to all the violence of emotion involved. Keep the negativity as private as possible.
- Your kids are not your spies: Adults have to learn to talk. If you have something to tell your former spouse, don’t ask your kids to tell them for you; tell them yourself.
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