5 ways to divorce-proof your marriage

In what can be called the most shocking news of the day, Bollywood actor-producer-director Farhan Akhtar and his wife Adhuna have decided to part ways after 16 years of togetherness.

In a statement issued through their publicist, the couple announced their decision to separate amicably and mutually. “This is to announce that we, Adhuna and Farhan, have mutually and amicably decided to separate. Our children remain our priority and it is immensely important to us, as responsible parents, that they be protected from unwarranted speculation and public glare. We sincerely request that we are given the privacy that is required at this time to move forward in a dignified manner,” read the statement.

This is the second star couple after Hrithik Roshan and Suzanne Khan to have announced separation after being together for more than a decade. While their separation might come as a surprise to many, no body can deny that it becomes tough to keep the sparks alive, particularly if you’ve been married for a really long time.

In the beginning of any relationship there are efforts made by both the partners to understand each other and they do everything they can to be more compatible. But slowly they start taking each other for granted and stop doing things that they really looked forward to earlier such as a light kiss while leaving for work, holding hands while watching TV and other such gestures that keep the romance alive in a marriage.

If you’re going through the same phase, your relationship needs an overhaul. These tips might come in handy.

• Have an open communication—The phrase 'speech is silver and silence is golden' does not work for a marriage. If you want the marriage to work, talk your heart out. Do not hide things from your partner no matter how small they are. If you don’t like him watching TV, go ahead and tell him, but remember to be tactful.
• Come to terms with the fact that everyone needs some alone time—We’re all human beings at the end of the day and all of us need some time out to breathe and reflect. Give your partner that space and let them know that you trust each other completely by not checking your phone calls and browsing through each other's Internet history.
• Don’t leave sex out—A wise man once said that marriages are actually made in the bedroom. That’s true to some extent, right? Have sex as often as you can. If you don’t feel like it, discuss with your partner. May be you can work something out. Start kissing each other as often as you did when you just got married and what about holding hands and hugging. So what if you have grown up kids, nothing can be more comforting than a warm, cosy hug.
• Send each other love notes—WhatsApp/Facebook is not only for you to re-connect with your old friends. You can use them to chat with your spouse as well. Send each other loving messages throughout the day to make each other feel special and most importantly, loved.
• Give each other the benefit of doubt—Before hurling abuses at each other, remember that you are not each other’s enemy. It is very easy to lose your temper and say things that might prove to be the first step towards separation. Give each other the benefit of doubt and wait for the explanation before jumping to conclusions. Come to terms with your problems and don’t keep them on hold. The sooner you realize that you have a problem, the sooner you’ll begin to solve them.

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