21 sex tips inspired by 50 Shades of Grey

Try these tips and experience a whole new sex life! Read on to know more

This book has inspired many mums to experiment

When Anastasia Steele encounters an intimidating yet brilliant Christian Grey, she is almost immediately pulled towards his raw sexual magnetism. During the course of her interactions with him, she falls head over heels in love with a man who presents her with all the luxuries and a 'dark' sexual proposal.

While the fictional erotic romantic novel 50 shades of grey stirred the imagination of many young mothers, it also brought to the fore an important question. How do you spice up your sex lives? And if you happened to be one of Grey's fans, you're in for a treat!

We bring to you some super-sexy tips that 50 shades of grey taught us to rev up a dull and boring sex life.

Make time for sex

Now this is the tricky part. As parents, you are busy balancing your own hectic schedules with your children's school activities, after-school specials and their upbringing. There is very little room for sex. But if you make an effort, you can turn every chance in a sexual encounter with the one you love.

Don't forget that sex helps strengthen and bond a relationship. It's the physical touch of your partner that reinforces the love for your partner. So try to set aside some romp time.

Christian also sets aside days for using his red room, remember? Maybe you don't need a red room, but you do need the love!

Role play

It's always a good idea to experiment when it comes to bedroom antics. Try role playing to spice things up a bit. share your partner's fantasy and act them out.

Use some props, if possible. You can even pretend to be Wonder woman and Superman or better yet Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele!

Take time to set seduce her

Foreplay is an important part of a healthy sexual relationship. While most men do not need to go through a 'process' of arousal, women usually take their time to get into the mood. So if you feel your partner needs some prodding, don't shy away from foreplay.

Whispers of sweet nothings or compliments can go a long way in turning your partner on. Flirt with her through cell phone messages or kinky pictures.

Christian Grey always lets his woman know what he wants, so go ahead and try his tricks. You don't have to be a billionaire to express your love.

Stimulate each other's mind

You can begin by stimulating each other's mind. Prod your partner on his or her sexual desires and perform them on each other every consecutive night.

You can also try asking your partner some questions about yourself. If answered correctly, you can reward them and if answered incorrectly, you can punish them.

Make this a fun activity where you put forth simple sexual desires that include kissing, hugging, holding hands or spooning. And if you are the adventurous kind, you can maybe try more than just pecks on the cheek. We're just saying!

Voice out what you want

Don't just assume your partner knows everything about your sexual desires. That'll just make you fall in a sexual rut. Instead, tell them how you feel about being together and what's on your mind. Chances are he or she might also be thinking the same but were apprehensive because "you didn't say it out aloud."

This will give your partner a chance to know you better and remember, Christian Grey always told Anastasia what he wanted! So keep a no-holds-barred approach when it comes to talking about sex.

Read 50 shades of grey

If you haven't already read this book or just done the deed once, we say do it again! It was a huge rage for its mommy porn content, but you never know what might spice up your sexual life. If possible, try reading it as a couple. There are so many erotic scenes in the book that it will push you to try something different with your partner.

Pick up the book off the shelf now and re-write your sexual history!

Come up with boundaries

The interesting part about sex is that you choose to have boundaries to tease each other. When you talk to each other about bedroom antics, try to come up with some ground rules.

These rules could be comfort level, dirty talking or just kinky ideas you might have in mind. In the book, Christian draws up a contract to explain the acts they could or could not do and 'safe words' to stop the sexual act.

Be confident

When you were wooing each other during your courtship, you were probably your confident best. That's just what you need at the moment. Never underestimate the power of your sex appeal.

You might be the master of the universe, but if you are unable to bring that confidence in the bedroom, it could be a major turn-off for your partner.

Even if you are not sure, act confident. In the book, Christian oozes confidence that attracts Anastasia and he is able to dominate her in the bedroom.

Tie each other

Try out come of Christian Grey's favorite romps. You can tie each other up by taking turns and see what the fuss is all about.

It's not the power of control that you exercise in this romp, but the lack of it that can give you pleasure on a different level. So leave your inhibitions behind and try something different.

Be adventurous

Don't forget to be adventurous. Sex can just as easily become boring if you let the spice slip out of the bedroom. Add new things and actions to your daily romps and see the difference.

Try some games or entertain each other with some unusual activity. Make sure you discuss this with your partner so you know what they want.

Use dirty talking

Talking dirty can excite your partner in ways you cannot imagine. It can bring spice to your usual boring sex life. Just as Christian talks dirty to Anastasia, engage in some dirty talking with your partner!

Alert: do not take this lightly, it can change your sex life.

Work out together

A well-kept physical appearance can bring about a great change in your sexual activities. The first thing that you'd notice in your partner is their physical appearance and being married in not an excuse to let go.

Try to motivate your partner to lead a healthy lifestyle together. Exercise and hit the gym together and make yourself more desirable for your partner. You will be sexier, healthier and have more energy to fulfill all your sexual desires. Remember, Christian would be so attractive had he not exercised!

Don't be selfish

Sex is not just about you, but its also about your partner. It will not just satisfy your sexual desires, but also your partner's. In order to have a pleasurable experience, both the partners must please each other as best as they can.

Remember, if you give a chance to your partner, he or she will reciprocate to satiate your desires too.

Play with toys

In the book, Christian uses many sex toys to satisfy his desire for sex. You can also try some of his tricks. Use some swings or tying toys to arouse each other and throw in some role play.

Using sex toys can take your sexual pleasure to a whole new level and reveal things you probably didn't know about yourself.

Blindfolding can be fun

When you blindfold your partner, you remove all distractions and you have your partner's undivided attention. Not just that, you also create an element of surprise for your partner and take them into an unchartered territory.

In the book, Christian also blindfolds Anastasia and let's her experience the unexpected.

Use different fabrics

You can use different fabrics to play with during your bedroom antics, These could also be for different reasons. You can use smooth silk materials to brush against your partner's body to initiate different sensations.

You can also use soft satin materials to tie up your partner. Try to use different variations of cloth to arouse your partner and kink up your sex life. Perhaps, you can avoid leather!

Maintain eye contact

When you maintain a constant eye contact with your partner, you express your love for them. In addition, maintaining eye contact during sex can take your experience to a whole new level.

Keeping your eyes open during the bedroom antics can also strengthen your bond and let's them know you are only thinking of them.

Remember, Christian never wanted this connect and never asked Anastasia to open her eyes during sex.

Show your pleasure

Leave your inhibitions behind and show your pleasure. Don't shy away from expressing your enjoyment during the act. This not only encourages the partner but also boost their confidence.

Making sexy noises and moaning is a part of the act. So don't think twice before getting the volume on.

In the book, Anastasia moans and ends up arousing Christian even more. So show your man how much you appreciate his effort.

Massage each other

Rub some oil on your partner and ease the stress out of their bodies. This will not only encourage your partner to let you experiment with their bodies, but also give you a chance to show you care.

Your touch may arouse your partner and take your bedroom activity to a whole new level!

Beg for more

If you haven't already had enough, don't hesitate to say it out aloud. Everybody loves an ego boost and one of the greatest ego boost's for your partner is if you beg for more.

During sex, ask your partner to do something special for you. If they refuse, beg more and see the difference for yourself. Your desperation can be the biggest motivation factor for your partner.

Written by

Deepshikha Punj

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