13 mistakes Indian parents make that hamper their child's growth!

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These are basic daily habits that we have developed over time and never really cared about their dreadful after effects.

The current generation has seen a huge shift and change. While most of us have taken many steps ahead, while few unknowingly have taken a few steps back, hampering our kids.

These are basic daily habits that we have developed over time and never really cared about their dreadful after effects.

 

13 mistakes Indian parents make that hamper their child's growth!

 

1) Screens over playgrounds

Many kids these days are introduced to the smartphone, tablet, laptop etc, to consider convince over time. No doubt this will lead to a technically smart kid, but also hamper his overall growth.

The cases for poor eyes sight is on the rise, and kids have barely stopped playing outside that is very important for his physical and mental well-being. This also leads to a wide possibility of them bumping into content that is not meant for them.

2) Give in to tantrums

To avoid wasting one’s time and energy, many parents these days just give in to the child’s tantrums in the name of love. But what they don’t learn is to learn to control their emotions and understand the difference between right and wrong.

3) Teach to win, not to lose

In this competitive world, we surely do introduce the kids to many extracurricular activities, but what we successfully do is to encourage them to win. But they end up not learning how to deal with failures.

Though we don’t want our kids to go through any sort of failure or pain, it is inevitable. Learning how to deal such situations is crucial for a child’s growth and development.

4) Compare

No two kids are the same, even two siblings. Every individual will have some set of strengths and weaknesses. It’s best to identify them and nourish them, rather than comparing them with other kids with your desired skill set.

 

13 mistakes Indian parents make that hamper their child's growth!

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5) The E.M.I living

The E.M.I convenience is a slow stress creator for the kids. With E.M.I, we are not only building a ground for kids to be burdened with loans (such as education loan or other avoidable loans) at a primary stage, but also teaching them indirectly to be constantly in-debited instead of waiting and saving.

If the education loan is taken from primary school, the kids’ main focus turns into rushing to earn money instead of taking decisions from an academic point of view.

6) Yell instead of teaching

Kids need to be scared of their parents respectfully sometimes to listen to them. But yelling at them for every small thing will only make them an angry individual in the future.

7) No sacrifice

Yes, no one told parenthood will be an easy journey, but it surely will be the most memorable one. But if we as parents can’t give up a certain thing, habit or food in front of our kids, we cannot expect our children to learn well.

Unless we practice what we preach, our kids will never follow a ‘NO’ giving our own example of how we don’t follow it. You can still go ahead and eat or do what you want when the kids are not around.

 

13 mistakes Indian parents make that hamper their child's growth!

 

8) Always giving them options and letting them decide

Remember why we had no options for kids, we learned to accept the situation and not always fight for what we thought was right.

Sometimes giving too many options and letting the kids decide for themselves make them headstrong of them always getting their way out instead of being flexible or adjusting to others.

9) Give, before they ask

Yes you know, that your child is eyeing on the new range of cycles, but don’t always over-load them with materialistic things before they can actually desire, want or ask.

But, do never wait to give them a zillion hugs, words of encouragement or lots of love!

10) Patience

One thing even our generation is struggling with is, patience! Though that is the most important virtue one must inculcate, we are failing in that big time.

Kids need to learn to be patient because every good thing in life needs a strong foundation that can be achieved with patience, time and perseverance.

11) Blaming them for your miseries

No, they did not ask you to give birth to them. So if you feel the kids or their behavior is making your life hell, then it was your choice. Even in anger never ever blame them for your miseries.

You may have to miss a lot of things and events in life if they fall ill, or have an important exam, but see the bigger picture and always choose love.

 

13 mistakes Indian parents make that hamper their child's growth!

12) Involving them in adult conversation when they are still not ready

You may feel the urge to crib about your boss, or another friend who is manipulating his way out, or judging other casts and creed in front of your kids and spouse.

But limit these conversations to only your parents or spouse and not in front of kids. Unknowingly their mind gets conditioned to judging a particular caste or situation or people.

13) Lying in front of them, for them

Last but not the least, never ever lie in front your kids for them. That gives out perfectly wrong signals and in the future, they will use the same trick to save themselves even if they go horribly wrong.

To build a clear conscious, best is to never encourage them to lie.

Also Read: Michelle Obama’s parenting tips for raising successful children

Written by

Amrita