8 reasons you should never yell at your children

Research says that yelling at children could lead to behavioural problems and in some cases, even depression. Here's why

8 reasons you shouldn’t yell at your children

Indian parents can often be too strict with their children. And while they maybe restricting themselves from hitting their ward, they are probably doing more damage by yelling at them.

In a study published in 2013, it was revealed that yelling at children could lead to behavioural problems and in some cases, even depression.

But these are just two of the prominent damages you could be causing to your child, if you often resort to yelling. Take a look at some of the other repercussions, this type of parenting can cause.

Aggression in behavior

Children who are often yelled at by parents tend to development an aggressive behavior. Since they witness this forceful behavior in their parents, they may feel that it’s acceptable to imitate their aggressiveness. All issues related to the child, whether they are physical or psychological must be handled with a calm self. Shouting your child will only scare him and increase aggression in his behavior.

What to do: Aggressive behavior stems from frustration and insecurity and you can tackle that by lending an ear to your child’s problem. Deal with it calmly as opposed to reacting aggressively.

Sense of insecurity

Yelling at your child will make him feel insecure and a sense of ‘not being heard.’ The child in such a situation feels that the environment as home is not reciprocated of his feelings. This would lead him to constantly lie and slowly detach himself from the family.

What to do: In case you feel that your child needs to be told something, you must do so calmly. Give him time to explain his side and then tell him that it’s not right. Simply screaming will not do the trick.

Poor academic performance

An non-supportive environment at home could affect a child’s academic performance. The feeling of insecurity, lack of confidence and lack of concentration could lead to the child losing interest in academics.

What to do: You must always encourage your child to perform to the best of his abilities, even if they do not match your expectations. Remember that support and encouragement are the key to your child’s success.

Development of fear

If you resort to yelling at your child, just to straighten him up, think again. You may be the reason he is scared of everything and probably everybody around him. Verbal abuse makes the child feel small and undervalued and fear the consequences of his feelings.

What to do: Make sure you listen to your child calmly. Give them time to address their problem and deal with it maturely. Screaming and yelling would scare them off and they would probably not even respect you the way you would intend them to.

Poor concentration

Lack of concentration is a result of prolonged verbal abuse in children. The constant fear of failure and its resultant abuse can lead to this problem. This also affects them in the future wand may negatively impact their social skills.

What to do: Stop yelling! That’s really the best thing you can do for your child, in case you been a habitual yelling-machine. It will also help you bond better with your child.

Poor self-esteem and lack of confidence

Verbal abuse can undermine your child’s confidence and affect his future relationships. Self-confidence is indoctrinated respecting, loving and valuing the child and his opinions. Experts have often suggested that children who are exposed to an aggressive environment in the house tend of have crippled confidence.

What to do: Help your child develop confidence by being an active listener. Give them the opportunity to discuss their issues with you and avoid being overly judgmental, even if you feel your child is not choosing the right path.

Sense of loneliness

Children who are often yelled at by parents or relatives suffer from loneliness. That’s because they are unable to share their feelings with them and often feel undervalued and unimportant.

What to do: Instead of yelling, if you notice your child sitting alone or engaging in a non-productive activity, you should use this opportunity to bond with them and get to know them better.

Lack of social skills

Children who are subjected to constant verbal abuse at home are usually found to have very poor social skills. Since their parents and their expectations have dominated them, they lack the confidence to approach people and befriend them easily.

What to do: You must encourage your child to share his problems in an environment that is free of consequences. This will boost his confidence and help him develop good social skills.

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