10 things every new mum needs to hear
Get through the tough days of being a new mum by saying and repeating these mantras to yourself. Presented by Baby Dove
1. It’s okay to sleep.
It’s natural to feel nervous about how to take care of your baby that you’re too worried to even take a nap. But going without rest will make you too tired to function properly. Don’t feel guilty if you need some shuteye—your baby will be taken care of better if you are fresh, well rested and up for new challenges.
2. Take three deep breaths, and then try again.
Scared to give your baby a bath because your little one cried the last time you did it? Take three deep breaths and try again. Always keep in mind that there is no right or wrong way of being a mother and you will always learn on the mommy journey. So, don’t get too rattled when things don’t turn out the way you wanted. Trust your instincts and give it a shot. Figure out what you can do differently to be successful at your next try.
There is after all nothing like right or wrong motherhood so don’t kill yourself over it. Be kind to yourself and keep on trying.
3. Progress, not perfection.
Mums are under a lot of pressure to make sure that their babies develop at the right pace, and that they hit their milestones at the right time. But rather than breaking under pressure, bear in mind that each child develops at their own pace and time. Listen to your intuition (and your child’s doctor, of course!) and calm down if all signs point to your baby being A -ok.
4. It’s alright to accept help.
There’s no such thing as a perfect mum. Everyone is trying their hardest to do right by their baby, no matter what those gorgeous mummy-and-me photos on social media show. Motherhood takes a lot of work and dedication, so if someone offers to help you out, don’t think it’s because you’re not good enough. Things are just easier when you’ve got a solid support system looking out for you.
5. Cry your heart out.
Yes, that’s right - it is ok to let off the steam once in a while. There are days when a new mom feels low, and overwhelmed with all the responsibilities that come along with the arrival of her baby. Instead of letting all this bog you down, head to a quiet corner away from your little one - a bout of crying will help release all these feelings and lighten up the weight on your mind.
Crying isn’t a sign of weakness; rather it’s a way for you to deal with the pain and frustration that every new mum feels. And when you feel that way, take comfort in the fact that you’re crying because you love your child so much that you feel emotions at a deeper level now than before.
6. You. Can. Do. This.
There will be days when you feel like the best mum ever, and there will be those days when you feel like you’re not cut out for this whole motherhood thing. Going back and forth with these emotions is completely normal, and with every task or activity that you need to do, from changing a nappy to putting your baby to sleep, remind yourself: You. Can. Do. This. Mothers are made of crazy strong stuff, and you’ll get through everything.
7. It gets easier.
When you’re running on 30 minutes of sleep a day and have virtually no time to eat a full meal, it’s easy to wallow in sadness and think that your life will always be like this. But take heart, mum—it does get easier. Babies will grow up and be able to take care of themselves. You’ll look back at these times as a happy memory wherein, out of everyone in the world, your child needed YOU the most.
8. A happy mummy is a happy baby.
Many mums dedicate every waking minute to their newborn, and even as a mum gets some sleep, they’re up a millisecond before their baby needs something. This complete devotion to your baby is amazing, but if there’s a slight chance that you’re feeling a little run down, remember that it’s okay to take a step back and do something that makes you feel happy, healthy, and whole. Babies benefit a great deal from a happy mummy—their happiness gets passed on to their baby.
9. Trust Your Way
At your lowest of lows, when you’re at your breaking point, you might think that your child would have been better off if she was born to a mum who knew what she was doing. Get rid of this thinking right away—there is no other mum who is better, happier, more able, or can do it better than you. Your baby was given to you knowing that you and your baby will make the perfect pair. As a mom, you know what’s best for your baby, so always trust your instincts and go with what you believe is right
10. My love and care is more than enough.
When your baby was born, you were perhaps surprised at how much love you felt, and how your heart opened up like it never had before. So, mum, on those days when you feel like you’re making it up as you go along, and you feel like anything you do is never enough, remember this: All that you do for your child is out of love, and that makes all that you do more than enough.
Baby Dove believes that there are no ‘perfect mums’, just real ones. Just like how there is no right or wrong way of being a mom, just your way!
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